Pole dancing has taken me on such a transformative journey—not just for my body but also for my mindset. As someone who has always struggled with comparing myself to others, pole classes have challenged me to shift my perspective and trust the process.
When I first moved into the advanced class, I was both excited and intimidated. I had progressed quickly through beginner and intermediate, but advanced was a whole new world. While I was learning how to do serpent, the other women in the class were easily flipping up into tricks I’d never even seen before. It was tempting to feel like I wasn’t where I “should” be. Comparison has always been a struggle for me, both in life and now in pole. Seeing others who seem so much more skilled can make me question my own progress. I’d think: “I’ll never be able to do that” or “shouldn’t I be farther along by now?” It’s easy to spiral into self-doubt when you focus on what others are doing instead of your own journey.
Progress comes at different rates for everyone, and it’s influenced by so many factors. When I look back at where I started, I’m amazed at how far I’ve come. I’ve gained strength, confidence, and a deeper appreciation for what my body is capable of. It’s easy to get discouraged when you’re focused on the gap between where you are and where you want to be, but pole has shown me the importance of celebrating how far I’ve already come. This January marks a year since I started my pole journey. I’ve learned that it’s okay to feel discouraged sometimes—everyone does. The key is to acknowledge those feelings, then shift your focus back to the positives. It also helps that everyone at the studio is so very supportive and encouraging.
Pole dancing has helped me embrace the idea that progress isn’t linear, and that’s okay. It’s shown me that comparing myself to others only robs me of the joy of my own experience. It’s taught me to be patient with myself, to trust that I’m exactly where I need to be, and to celebrate every step along the way. I’m shifting my focus to being thankful for what my body can do right now. I know if I keep moving forward instead of staying stuck on the negative, I’ll get where I want to be. Everyone’s path is different, and that’s what makes it beautiful.